I don’t think this cat needs therapy! She seems very talented in dealing with potentially irritating stimuli!
One common problem that a lot of people seem to have, that they do not recognise as a problem, is getting irritated at a lot of things. People will often say “I can’t stand this or that” — which could be an actor, politician,the way someone behaves, certain kinds of music, certain clothes etc. etc. When people have strong aversions which cause irritation and even anger every time they think of or run into whatever it is they “can’t stand”, their physical body gets stressed. Also, anyone who wants to be a good person and/or on a spiritual path, will not feel very good about their reactions. This disapproval can add another layer of stress, and perhaps even another layer – trying not to be negative.
Irritation can be healed I look on all this aversion to whatever as causing stress and discomfort as something which can be healed rather than supressed. Have you ever thought what is happening in your physical body when encountering something you “can’t stand”? Wouldn’t it be better to have an opinion about something and just remove your attention from it? – (like the cat did by moving away when it seemed to have decided it was not comfortable with the puppy’s playfulness).
I find that hypnotherapy can help negate the anger and stress which comes from bothering too much about the “can’t stands”, and elevating them into stuck opinions which irritate you every time you run into them.
If you saw my previous video and blog on Shiva Nata you will see from the video ) that this is a completely different style of Shiva Nata. This is a beautiful graceful way to do this, and it just shows how flexible a system this is. It has certainly encouraged me, now I know the basic moves, to concentrate on moving more smoothly and gracefully.
Flexibility There are so many styles in Shiva Nata if you investigate it on YouTube. I stress the flexibility of this system which allows personal choice on how you practise it. Recently I have found it really useful to have a short practice of just moving one arm. All the 8 arm positions are numbered (you only learn 4 first!), and each is numbered. So I say the number to myself for each position as I move the arm. I have just started adding the leg positions! This gives me a real sense of accomplishment and total involvement, but I only involve the leg movements sometimes, to avoid pushing myself into frustration.
Do give Shiva Nata a go, it is truly unique. I’d love to hear from anyone who has taken up Shiva Nata.
Shiva Nata is the Dance of Shiva. It is a wonderful exercise based on yoga which gives your brain the best workout possible! I got very bored with computer-based brain training games, and knew I really needed to improve my memory and creativity. I hadn’t been having much success with the brain training games, and then somebody told me about Shiva Nata. I haven’t looked back.
I could never learn to do that! If you look at Andre Lappa in the video above, you may think you could never do this. Not so. He is the developer of this practical method of the Dance of Shiva which is modelled on an ancient yoga practice, which was the basis for early Buddhist Martial Arts styles in the South of China. He has studied many different types of yoga and martial arts around the world and is a renowned teacher. So he is really expert at this. I do Shiva Nata at my own pace, which is very much slower, and as I practise I become a bit quicker and more fluid. I set no goals for myself and never push my learning into frustration.
Brain Training that works
I have been doing Shiva Nata for only a few months and already my memory is beginning to improve. I am also getting out of some mental ruts and thinking of new and novel ways to do things. My arms are now much stronger, my shoulders are more flexible and my posture has improved, and I am really enjoying doing it.
What it great about Shiva Nata is that you are moving your body at the same time, and this really involves your whole brain in a way the other sitting at a computer doing brain training exercises cannot do. Yet it is great fun, and it is important to really enjoy it. I often only do about five minutes at a time, and then just rest for a minute or two to let my brain freewheel after all the brain stretching I have been doing. There are many levels of complexity of Shiva Nata, and once a sequence becomes easy you go on to make it harder and thus continue to develop your brain.
Learn Shiva Nata I learned the basics from Noreen Blanluet who makes it really easy to learn and is a super encouraging teacher. See her website http://www.shivanatawales.com/.
I would highly recommend Shiva Nata as a way to get fit, be more creative, more open minded and to improve memory, learn faster (and be more open to exploring and learning new things), and especially to anyone of a certain age who is experiencing “senior moments”.
If you want to enhance your spiritual development and really get some very interesting information on how to “be in the now” I think you will be interested in this book. I read this marvellous book after reading “Star Pilgrim” (see previous blog), and found that it left me with a feeling of much more connection with the wonder of the universe.
This book is written from a Christian perspective, but will fit in with any spiritual or meditation practice you follow. Everybody takes different ideas and understandings from the same book, and you may take different, but equally valuable insights from reading it. I think it is a spiritual gem! I welcome comments.
This is a very easy to do exercise from the Body Talk system of healing. It is very useful when you feel fatigued or overwhelmed, and can noticably refresh you. It only takes a few minutes do to – try it a few times and notice the difference!
It is important when trying anything new that you make a note of how you feel before and after doing it. It is easy to use a scale of 0 – 10, with ten being the strongest that you feel it. It is easy then to have feedback on which practices are beneficial to you. Remember to do this for a few days as your responses can vary.
This book is actually spiritual science fiction novel – but it is so much more than that, and the most unusual and uplifting book I have ever read.
I read this book twice in one month. The first time it was so exciting that I went through it fast to find out what happened in the end. The second time I savoured it, and indeed it has changed the whole way I think about meditation and its aims. It has expanded my universe and opened new possibilities. The ultimate question it poses – Why is there something instead ofnothing? – has dissolved a lot of concepts I have taken on over the years, which were limiting my experience of life and the unseen world.
An experience to be savoured I won’t go into more details of the effect this book had on me – it was profound – as each person who reads it will have their own unique experience. I can just say, that is you are on the spiritual path this is sure to enhance and expand your experience.
Simon Small has written an excellent book on contemplation, called “From the Bottom of thePond” – The forgotten art of experiencing God in the depths of the present moment”. This gives a practical way to implement the ideas in “Star Pilgrim”, and gives a different meaning to “being in the Now”.
I have recently learned a new effective way to teach you how to manage your panic attacks.
The unpleasant sensations of a panic attack are your body’s preparation for flight or fight, and when there is no tangible danger the symptoms can be very upsetting and your body can feel out of control. You may feel your heart racing, get very hot, have whirling thoughts or feel dizzy. Some people may even think they are having a heart attack and go to A & E, only to be told that there is nothing physically wrong with them (although they felt convinced that there was something seriously wrong).Panic attacks, when there is no danger, have to be learned – there was a time when your body and mind only producted this state of arousal when there was a real threat. This false alarm can be disrupted, so you can go back to normal.Panic attacks can be extremely uncomfortable, but they are the felt reaction to potentially non-threatening circumstances, or sometimes just “come out of the blue”. What you feel is an upsurge of stress hormones (adrenalin etc.), which are preparing you for danger which actually doesn’t exist, and which puts you in an extremely unpleasant state of flight/fight with no way out. In other words it prepares your whole system for physical action, which is not appropriate when there is no danger.
It is obvious that a big surge of adrenalin can in extreme circumstances save your life, but out of context it is hugely upsetting. Your body needs to learn not to make an inappropriate “panic attack”, and only go into this state of readiness for flight or fight on the rare occasions it is necessary.
A couple of weeks ago in the evening, my very affectionate cat Saffy, suddenly got out of her basket and had obvious trouble breathing and was clearly experiencing a lot of stress. I realised it was a real emergency, and actually thought her life was in danger. I had a big upwelling of upset, which in the past would have stopped me from acting for the best, but this time was different. I should say I am very fond of my cat, she is rescued, and I have had her for over 10 years.
I dealt with my very upset feeling by using the first step of EmoTrance. I just felt the feeling in my body fully; located where it was and felt how much space it took up inside me. This allowed it to process on the spot and subside, and I was able to get on with ringing for out of hours veterinary assistance, and booking a taxi to get her to the animal hospital, and generally dealing with the situation without getting overwhelmed by sadness. This does not mean I denied my feelings, to the contrary, I allowed them to process rather than express. With EmoTrance training, that distinction becomes clear.
I think EmoTrance is excellent for any kind of grief or bereavement, to help you allow your body to grieve naturally and not get stuck in the feelings. I offer pet bereavement sessions to clients, as when a companion animal dies, there is a very real and keenly felt loss that needs to process. In the past when one of my cats died, I got very upset and tearful, often in inappropriate situations, as I really did not know how to deal with the grief. Now I know that when Saffy dies it will still be painful, but I know how to allow my body to naturally digest the pain, so after a while will be no residue, and I will be able to feel good by remembering all the good times we had together.
I have just been reading how certain spring-flowering bulbs like daffodils and snowdrops need a certain period of winter chilling, below 7.2C for up to 1,500 hours, in order to bloom. This is because when the buds are formed during late summer, growth inhibitors accumulate in flower and leaf buds, and the chilling breaks down these inhibitors.
How do we grow? We certainly don’t enjoy upsetting experiences, but when they heal, what have we gained if anything?
That got me on to wondering if maybe we somehow need certain experiences, which are sometimes upsetting, so we can fully bloom, like the bulbs need chilling. Certainly some of the most traumatic experiences can stunt our growth, but there are many ways to heal these so we can gain something from them. In my work I assist people in healing the pain in such experiences so they can “flower”. I use various forms of hypnotherapy to do this, and teach you how to manage future upsets yourself.
I have quite a few interests and I reckon the common theme is personal/spiritual development, maintaining physical health, and learning about the wonders of the physical and natural universe.
Over the years I have explored many different ways to do efficient therapy, to meditate and how to keep my body healthy. There continue to be many useful developments in all these fields, and I want to use this blog to give you a brief introduction to some of the things that I have found particularly helpful to me. I hope some of this will be useful to you and maybe prevent you from having to duplicate a lot of the research I had to do to in the past, and even open up new areas of interest for you.
Julie de Burgh - Hypnotherapist, Ealing, West London, W5
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